To my friends the day before their wedding

Y’all get on each other’s nerves sometimes. I’ve seen it. Anyone who knows you at all has seen it. You have chosen to see past the annoyances and marry one another.

This is a powerful statement in this day and age. A time when hook ups and casual dating is the norm. A time when at the first sign of trouble people break up and go their seperate ways instead of working it out. A time when people don’t get married because they don’t trust another person, they don’t want to deal with the legalities. . . And they don’t believe in the word forever. They don’t believe in for better or for worse because they know that if worse comes, they’re bailing or their spouse is.

Marriage is a powerful statement. It’s saying I am giving you my life. I am trusting you with my finances, the roof over my head. . . And my heart. The heart is a fragile thing, and you are trusting each other with that, and in a time when trust in another human is all but gone in our society, you are doing this. You are saying ‘I do.’

I’m proud to call you my friends. I am ecstatic to be able to see this leg of your journey begin. And I couldn’t think of any two people more meant for each other, more deserving of each other than you two. What one lacks the other has. Time and again I have seen you lift each other up. You are a team. As a team you will have your setbacks – But you’ll come out stronger. Because if there’s one thing you have in common with one another, it’s that you have big hearts, and you’re stubborn. You won’t give up on each other.

So, from the bottom of my heart I wish you both the very best. Many years of annoying the shit out of each other. . . Oh. And love. Many years of love.